Hello Lovlies,
Welcome to another blog post, I you haven’t checked out my last blog post I would highly recommend you do, it’s about giving yourself the permission to accept change and embrace it. It will be link here.
For todays blog post we are going to talk about a similar topic. A topic that really is the backbone of why I started this blog. Figuring out your 20’s is like figuring out how a cars engine works without knowing what in the world you are doing.
It is this trivial time in our lives and we have no clue what we are doing. It is a weird transition between being a teenager and also kind of being an adult. All of a sudden we have to start thinking about topics like taxes and what we want to do for the rest of our lives when not too long ago I was searching for answers to my quiz on quizlett.
And if you are in college you’re basically a magician because you have to try to balance school and this thing called being an “adult”.
Here are some things that I have learned along the way. Like I said being in your 20’s is such a tricky part of our lives, but it is also really comforting to know that others go through the same things we are going through and we become this community of people that can laugh at ourselves for not knowing what a 401K is and should I get it? or how do I get it?
01. Accept that we can’t control everything
I think one of the first and hardest lessons we learn in our 20’s is that we can’t control everything. We can’t control what other people do or think, we can’t control circumstances, but we do have control over ourselves. How we choose to response to someone else is completely up to us. Realizing that we are in control of our emotions and our own circumstance is important to not set up ourselves for failure when someone isn’t the person we want them to be.
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02. Get your finances in order
This is probably one of those topics in your’s 20’s where you have to figure things out as you go. I know that was the case for me. Money is one of the things we are suppose to be really good, magically, but no one every really teaches us the HOW TO part.
Not until recently, like really recently did I found something that is practical and that works. It is the Dave Ramsey Baby Steps. They are attainable goals and not only are they for your’s 20’s, but they are goals and steps that you can follow for life so that like Dave Says, “Live like no one else, so you can live and give like no one else.”
Blog Post: Finances in your 20’s
03. We are still children
I have been working with little kids ever since I can remember. Something that I have learned from working with these little munchkins is that they can be really resilient. Regardless of how their day is going they look at the positive things in hand instead of focusing on the bad. Sometimes I am taking myself too seriously and I feel stuck thinking about x, y and z (ADULT STUFF), but little kids have thought me that “even though we are going up we should never stop having fun.”
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04. Surround yourself with positive beings
I truly believe that energies are contagious. You start to think like the people around you, so if the people around you talk about the same things over and over again, if they are a constant source of stress and you feel drained instead of rejuvenated when you hang out with them its time to cut back on how much time you spend with them.
By the way, this can apply to any relationship in your life and not just friendships. Maybe you have start to question if you should continue to be in a relationship where you are no longer happy in or even family members that always seem to put you down or start drama. Cutting out people that drain you of your energy can be really tricky, but in the long run will bring you so much happiness.
05. Sometimes things aren’t what they seem
When I thought about my 20’s I thought it was going to feel what Taylor Swifts song 22?! Life isn’t always this picture perfect moment. We don’t always look and feel like we are on top of the world and sometimes there will be moments that we will feel that way. One of my favorite memories in my 20’s is being able to travel with my friends and singing my lungs out for karaoke and other days I can’t wait for the day to be over so that I can crawl into bed and when days are going really really bad I cry myself to sleep. Know that everything happens for a reason and better things are ahead after we get through that struggle.
06. Do things for you and you will be happy
Your 20’s is when you start to realize that High School was a short part of your life, even though it probably did not feel like that at the time. I’m pretty sure at least a handful if not more people can relate to the fact that we wanted to be liked by other people and so some of us did things that probably we didn’t want to do, but for the sake of being cool we wanted to do those things. As we get older though we start to realize though that making other people drains us of our happiness. Do things that are true to you and do things that make you happy because at the end of the day that is all that matters. Because you don’t want to look back at your life and not be in love with the person you have become.
07. It’s okay to accept change as part of life
Sometimes the goals that we wanted when we were younger are no longer there. Sometimes we discover something new along the way and we change our minds. For the longest time I was breaking my head over trying to figure out what my next step was and I can say with confidence that time heals it all and that slowly and gradually I’m trying to figure things out on my own. That came with accepting that life is ever changing and change is a part of life that I have come to accept and enjoy.
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I hope you find this advice helpful. I would love it if you would share this with anyone who needs to hear this. I create these blog post to help others out there who are feeling like I once felt.
Let me know what you think in the comments below
xoxo, yadi
